{"id":1490,"date":"2022-11-29T15:19:32","date_gmt":"2022-11-29T15:19:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/?p=1490"},"modified":"2022-11-29T15:19:32","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T15:19:32","slug":"6-ways-to-deal-with-pre-wedding-jitters-by-katie-pierce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/2022\/11\/6-ways-to-deal-with-pre-wedding-jitters-by-katie-pierce\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Ways to Deal with Pre-Wedding Jitters by Katie Pierce"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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So, your wedding is weeks away but instead of counting down the days, you\u2019re doubting whether or not you should get on with the wedding. What if no one shows up? What if something goes wrong? What if everything <\/em>goes wrong? Don\u2019t worry \u2014 you\u2019re not alone. It\u2019s common for couples to feel on edge as their wedding day approaches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pre-wedding jitters vs. cold feet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Pre-wedding jitters shouldn\u2019t be mistaken for cold feet.  The former is when you\u2019re simply worried about the wedding itself, while the latter is when you\u2019re considering calling it off. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the cause of your stress is simply the pressure to throw the \u201cbest\u201d wedding possible, or the thought of having to live up to your guests\u2019 expectations, then you have pre-wedding anxiety. It will go away as soon as your wedding is over. However, if your feelings are rooted in something more serious (e.g. you aren\u2019t ready for marriage), you may want to cancel your wedding as this is a sign of cold feet. Also, if you aren\u2019t looking forward to life after your wedding, that\u2019s a sure sign that you shouldn\u2019t say your \u201cI dos\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re experiencing pre-wedding anxiety, we\u2019ve got you covered. Here are a few tips on how to deal with jitters:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.  Be honest about your feelings<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Denying your feelings won\u2019t make them go away \u2014 it will only make them worse. The first thing you should do is allow yourself to feel your feelings. Understand that pre-wedding stress happens to everyone<\/em> (even to couples who look like they\u2019ve got everything under control) and that it\u2019s OK to feel that way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t downplay how you feel \u2014 instead, talk about your fears and worries with someone you trust, such as your best friend or a family member. Remember, it\u2019s better to let your emotions out than to bottle them up. You\u2019ll feel a lot better once you get your feelings off of your chest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Create a checklist<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many brides have pre-wedding jitters because they\u2019re worried they might have forgotten a thing or two. To save yourself from stress, create a list of things you need to do. Then, split up your tasks in order of their importance. For instance, you may want to set a wedding date first so that guests have enough time to RSVP, and then choose a venue once you have a final headcount.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A week before your wedding, go through your list to make sure you haven\u2019t forgotten anything. That way, you can rest assured that you\u2019ve completed all of your to-dos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Do fun stuff<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t need to throw yourself into wedding planning 24\/7. You may be a bride-to-be, but that\u2019s not all that you are. Don\u2019t forget to make time for the things that you want to do, whether that\u2019s going to the gym, taking a walk, going window shopping, or simply staying at home. It\u2019s a good idea to designate one \u201cwedding-free\u201d day a week so you don\u2019t end up feeling overwhelmed.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Note that if you spend all of your time on wedding preparations, you will end up stressing yourself out. When this happens, there\u2019s bound to be tension between you and your partner, so try not to be in wedding planning mode all the time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Spend time with your partner<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Counterintuitive as it sounds, weddings can cause couples to grow distant from each other. From choosing a wedding venue to coordinating with vendors, you\u2019ll be so busy with wedding planning that you\u2019ll forget to spend time with your fianc\u00e9. Even if a happily-ever-after is waiting for you, now isn\u2019t the time to lose your connection with your partner. The distance can lead you to wonder whether or not you should go through with your wedding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re stressed about your big day, talk about it with the person whom you\u2019ll be spending the rest of your life with. By confiding in your partner, you will feel more secure, knowing that you\u2019re in this together. And if you feel that the sparks are fading away, rekindle the romance. Go away on the weekend, wind down with some wine, or plan date nights where you don\u2019t discuss anything wedding-related. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Accept that your wedding won\u2019t be perfect<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Embrace the fact that your wedding won\u2019t be perfect. It\u2019s easy to get swept up in planning the best wedding (one that\u2019s worthy of being in Martha Stewart Weddings<\/em>), but don\u2019t stress yourself out about it. The reality is that some things are bound to go wrong at every wedding, whether it\u2019s the bridesmaids showing up late, the dress being a bit too tight, the page boy losing the rings, and the list goes on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t control everything, so go with the flow and accept that mistakes can happen. By acknowledging that things may not go exactly as planned, you\u2019ll be able to free yourself from pre-wedding anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Remember why you\u2019re doing this<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Always remember that you\u2019re getting married not because you want to throw a big wedding, but to be together. If you\u2019re struggling with pre-wedding jitters, just ask yourself why you accepted your partner\u2019s promise ring<\/a> in the first place. Write down what made you fall in love with them, and reminisce about your favorite memories such as your first date. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another way to combat pre-wedding jitters is by looking forward to the life that\u2019s waiting for you. Picture yourself doing things together, such as starting a family, building a home, and more. Focus on what\u2019s waiting for you, not on planning the perfect wedding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Final Thoughts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Feeling worried before your wedding may be normal, but don\u2019t let it get to you.  As long as you\u2019re sure about the person you\u2019ve chosen to be with forever, there\u2019s nothing to worry about. Trust that your wedding will be beautiful. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, your wedding is weeks away but instead of counting down the days, you\u2019re doubting whether or not you should get on with the wedding. What if no one shows up? What if something goes wrong? What if everything goes wrong? Don\u2019t worry \u2014 you\u2019re not alone. It\u2019s common for couples to feel on edge […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1490","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-weddings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1490","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1490"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1490\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1492,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1490\/revisions\/1492"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1490"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1490"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.smapenzi.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1490"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}